There is so much talk this time of year about goals for “2018.” I used to do that too, but I had realization that there is a MUCH better way. Read on for an entirely different, more dynamic, and prosperous view on “goals” … and discover how a lasso relates to these new ideas.
It’s About the Journey
Many goals are a destination—a place you want to be, a thing you want to achieve, etc. Often we forget about our present happiness, fulfillment, relationships, health, and so on. How successful and happy might you be if you fully enjoyed what you are doing now AND are heading in a direction that lights you up and gives you joy? My bet is the most amazing and magical opportunities will appear and those “goals” you have will be met and exceeded sooner than you imagine. Why? Because when we live and dance in the moment life comes alive, your creative potential skyrockets and possibilities appear all around you. The journey is where we spend all of our days! Enjoy it!
A Look Back
2017 was the most unbelievable of year change in my life. Many goals I previously had were left at the wayside… and they needed to be! Several of my dreams came to fruition in ways I could never have imagined. The most unbelievable opportunities popped up… and many of those opportunities were cloaked in what initially seemed like a tragedy.
Here’s the kicker: Absolutely nothing went according to plan, my way of approaching life is vastly changed, my ingenuity is at an all-time high… and I still cannot believe I am writing this blog from my new home on wheels (my Airstream trailer) in Texas Hill Country with the entire space of North America as my potential back yard. <– This was not a goal for 2017!!
All of this happened simpler and quicker than my wildest dreams. It happened with relative ease AFTER I stopped making goals. Instead, I pointed myself in a direction, trusted, and took one step after another.
A Look back for You and Your First Two Questions to Explore:
What did you accomplish in 2017?
What did you learn?
The Ride of Your Life
Take a moment and visualize this (like watching a movie of yourself on a wall in front of you). Imagine your dreams threw a lasso around your wrist and were pulling you toward an amazing future: There you are initially running and sometimes stumbling, but keeping up just fine. Your arm with the lasso around it is outstretched as if an extension of the rope that is stretched so long and far that it disappears in the distance. There is a look of astonishment (and some shock!) on your face melded together with an ear to ear smile.
You are much much more of a passenger than a tour guide, and you are ok with that! You trust this ride is exactly perfect… even though you don’t know what “perfect” is. Amazement, happiness, success all are right there for you to experience in the now and continually appearing on the path. People see you and your rope and are intrigued. Many are joining in and are walking alongside (some have been a part of your life forever and there are many new faces too). Some people aren’t joining in and that’s ok. They disappear into the dust that fills the air behind you- maybe you’ll see them soon, maybe not. Sometimes you are meandering, sometimes sprinting as fast as Usain Bolt, sometimes jogging, sometimes walking. You are going with the flow in the moment all the while being pulled forward gently by your rope that is a constant companion.
Life can be lived in the same way. It’s much simpler than many imagine…. And more fun. Trust, head in the direction of your dreams and be open to what lies ahead. Looking back at this year I have learned a lot, and I’ve only begun to grasp the possibilities. Here are just a few of the realizations I’ve had:
Every tragedy is a blessing
Even though I look back and see that 2017 was the most transformative year of my life, it also contained some of the toughest and heart wrenching days and weeks I’ve experienced. In the moment its ok to be sad, hurt, to cry, to lean on others. Everything always works out for the best- always. Sometimes it’s not apparent in the midst of a situation, but every tragedy is a blessing.
Feel all the feelings
Feelings are part of living- all feelings. Thankfully I was reminded by someone close to me to experience all the colors of the rainbow. Sadness, anger, disappointment, and all the stuff I often pushed under the surface. Each is a part of the rainbow of life. Feel it, experience it, and know that your feelings will come and go: sometimes swiftly, sometimes after a while. There is nothing “to do.” Go with it: Experience the wide array of colors and you’ll be richer for it.
Understand Who You are and How Life Works
We naturally get much more out of ourselves when we insightfully understand more about who we are and how life works. When we really understand how something works, from a toaster, to driving a car, to gravity it becomes simple and easy. When we don’t have to think about it anymore and just do it: We toast our toast, we drive, and fall to the ground with a sense of ease and simplicity. With a deeper and deeper understanding about how our minds work, how life works, how the human system works… everything, absolutely everything continually simplifies.
Sacrificing Happiness isn’t Required
Don’t sacrifice current happiness for a future goal. Be happy now. Enjoy life, head in a direction, dance in the moment, see what comes up. Putting your nose to the grindstone isn’t the best way. Be gentle, be caring, be open: Have a vision and head in a direction. You don’t have to know how you will get there, because the unimaginable happens. When your nose is to the grindstone you miss out on the magical stuff. Enjoy the journey and be open to notice all the possibilities.
Live in the present
Have fun, enjoy the people and places along your path. Life is so much richer with eyes wide open to the here and now. Many people think that happiness comes from success, but happiness breeds success. Be present, be happy and “success” will be inevitable.
What do you notice in these ideas? I would love to explore more with you.
Your Year Of Possibilities
This is your year of possibilities. What would you like to create? Consider this sentence, “Wouldn’t it be awesome if _____.” If you could fill in the blank with absolutely anything, what would it be? Put it out there! What would be fun, exciting, or just perfect for you? Point yourself in that direction, let that lasso loop around your wrist, and continue on your journey. Trust, be open, and see what happens… It just might be seemingly effortless and a lot fun.
Your Next Two questions to explore:
What would I most love to achieve in the next year?
What is my next (or first) step?
Point yourself in a direction. Take a step, see what comes up. Take another. This is a simple process, once you have a deep understanding about who you are, how your mind works best, and how life works… then simplicity, happiness, freedom, and success all will be roped together with you in the lasso of life. Interested? I can help you get there all the while enjoying the journey. Let’s have a chat and start creating something amazing.
Happy 2018! Make this your most enjoyable and successful year yet
… until the next revolution.
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